Song: In Common Artist: Alicia Keys I have a friend, a good friend, whom I’ve been good friends with for over a decade. She ain’t never switched up on me. It’s never been no attitude on the phone, on text, nada. She is over 20 years my senior but we became fast friends, from work. We’ve both moved on from that job for many reasons. She has 3 adult children, which I’ve always known but the oldest is 2.5 years younger than me. I didn’t realize all those years ago when we worked together that the son she was speaking about was that close in age to me. I think…

Song: It’s WhateverArtist: Aaliyah Working on self-healing because the past is someone else’s business— not mine. This is an open letter to someone who I have not had the opportunity to speak to and I think it’s time to be free from the things I’ve been holding in, in regard to them. Dear You, For whatever reason, you’ve been on my mind heavily this weekend. And this is not the first time. It’s perplexing how after all these years, you’ve remained on my mind. We didn’t talk much back in high school, but man, the things that were left unsaid. I truly hoped for so long that you’d say to…

Song: Man Artist: JoJo We all know what a pick-me is from social media. The way I interpreted it was a woman who will say or do anything, even if it goes against her own moral compass, in order to be chosen or seen as more desirable, to a man. Now, I would not go that far to get a guy– simply any guy, because I’ve never been the “any” guy type of girl. There was always a specific guy I wanted, for very specific reasons. For me and in my opinion, a lot of the guys who I was into, it was never simply a how they looked, it…

Song: Spotless Mind> Jhené Aiko Line: “Shame on me for changing; shame on you for staying the same.” Y’all know what I think— I think men who have decided to stay stagnant for so long are realizing that they are running out of options. The women they either disregarded or dogged-out are no longer waiting in the wings for them to return. Women’s empowerment has taken form and has been seen right in our faces, thanks to social media.  For me, depending on the relationship determines when and if the person should try to come back. I briefly talked to a dude over three years ago— we never met up…